🍑 How to Use a Butt Plug? Your Butt Plug Using Guide
How to Use a Butt Plug: Complete Beginner's Guide with Safety Tips & Sizing
📅 Content Status: Last Updated October 16, 2025 | Reviewed quarterly for safety protocols and product recommendations
Quick Answer: How to Use a Butt Plug Safely
Essential steps: Choose a small, body-safe plug with a flared base (0.75-1.0 inches / 1.9-2.5 cm diameter for beginners). Browse our beginner butt plug collection for properly sized options. Apply generous water-based lubricant to both the plug and your anus. Relax with deep breathing. Insert slowly at a slight angle, letting your body adjust. The widest part requires the most patience—once past it, your sphincter closes around the narrow neck. Start with 10-15 minute sessions. New to butt plugs? Start with our guide on what butt plugs are and how they work.
Critical safety rules: Flared bases are mandatory (prevents over-insertion), use only body-safe materials (platinum silicone, stainless steel, or glass), never skimp on water-based lube, and remove slowly when ready. Sharp pain means stop immediately—mild pressure during insertion is normal, but pain indicates a problem.
Cleaning protocol: Wash with mild soap and warm water immediately after each use. Non-porous materials (silicone, steel, glass) can be boiled for sterilization if they contain no electronics. See our complete sex toy cleaning guide for detailed protocols.
📋 Butt Plug User Guide
- How to Properly Use a Butt Plug?
- Don't Be Shy on the Lube
- How to Insert a Butt Plug?
- Butt Plug Safety & Cleaning
- Best Sizes for Beginners and Advanced Users
- Butt Plug Teasing
- How to Remove Your Butt Plug?
- Pro Tips For Using a Butt Plug Like a Pornstar
- How Long Can You Leave Your Butt Plug In?
- What Material is Best For Your First Butt Plug?
- How to Choose a Butt Plug?
- Butt Plugs Mean Business
- Using a Butt Plug to Stimulate Your Partner's A-Spot
- Using a Butt Plug to Stimulate Your Partner's P-Spot
- Our Top 5 Hand-Picked Beginner Butt Plugs
🎯 Key Takeaways for Butt Plug Beginners
- Flared bases mandatory: Non-negotiable safety feature preventing over-insertion emergencies
- Start small: 0.75-1.0 inch (1.9-2.5 cm) diameter, 3.0-3.5 inch (7.6-8.9 cm) insertable length—browse our beginner collection
- Material matters: Choose platinum silicone, stainless steel, or glass—avoid porous materials
- Lube generously: Water-based lube only with silicone plugs; reapply frequently. See our anal lube guide
- Insert slowly: Rushing causes discomfort; let your body adjust at its own pace
- Time limits: 30-45 minutes for beginners, maximum 2-3 hours for experienced users. Read about safe wear duration
- Remove carefully: Add fresh lube, relax muscles, pull slowly—never rush removal
- Clean thoroughly: Soap and warm water after every use; sterilize periodically
Butt plugs open up a world of pleasurable anal sensations whether you're exploring solo or with partners. Many people use butt plugs as preparation for anal intercourse, while others simply enjoy the unique fullness and stimulation they provide during other sexual activities or as standalone pleasure.
This comprehensive guide removes the guesswork. We'll explain safe insertion techniques, proper sizing for beginners and advanced users, material selection, lubrication strategies, duration guidelines, and cleaning protocols. Whether you're completely new to anal play or looking to refine your technique, this guide provides the practical foundation you need.
The name might not sound romantic, but butt plugs deliver intense, back-bending orgasms when used correctly. They work excellently for people of all genders and orientations—solo, partnered, or in group scenarios. While exploring unknown territory can feel daunting, we're here to guide you through every aspect of these uniquely satisfying toys. If you're brand new to butt plugs, start with our foundational guide on what butt plugs are and how they work.
First-time recommendation: Experiment alone initially to discover what you enjoy without performance pressure. You can use butt plugs with or without condoms (condoms simplify cleanup). When kept clean and used safely, butt plugs cause no health, wellbeing, or hygiene problems.
How to Properly Use a Butt Plug?
Okay, so the name isn't exactly a turn-on, but butt plugs really are worth trying if you're open to salacious backdoor play. These kinky sex toys can send your satisfaction levels skyrocketing.
Whether you're exploring girl-on-guy, girl-on-girl, guy-on-guy dynamics, or getting off solo, insert correctly and let the intense orgasms begin. Even if you're ready to give butt plugs the green light, breaking into unknown territory requires proper guidance. From picking the perfect plug and lube to understanding safe usage protocols, we've got every aspect of these unique toys covered.
Don't Be Shy on the Lube
You should use high-quality personal lubricant with all penetrative toys, but this is especially critical for butt plugs and other anal toys. Unlike vaginal play, the anus doesn't naturally lubricate. The golden rule for any anal play is lube and plenty of it—there's no such thing as "too much" lube for anal activities. Learn more about proper preparation in our comprehensive anal play guide.
We offer a range of water-based lubricants designed especially for anal play. These formulas are extra thick and long-lasting to make play comfortable and pleasurable. For detailed lube recommendations and product comparisons, see our expert guide on the best lubes for anal play.
⚠️ Critical Lube Information
For silicone, latex, or rubber plugs: Use only water-based lubricant. While silicone lube is excellent (doesn't dry out, lets you go longer), it can chemically bond to or degrade silicone, latex, and rubber materials. This creates tacky spots where bacteria thrive and potentially ruins your toy permanently.
The trade-off: Water-based lube requires more frequent reapplication (every 15-20 minutes), but it's worth it to preserve your favorite toys and ensure safety. Plus, reapplying lube provides excellent opportunities for sensual teasing and connection.
For stainless steel or glass plugs only: Any lube type works (water, silicone, or oil-based) since these non-porous materials don't react with lubricants. However, water-based remains easiest to clean.
💡 Evan's Lubrication Strategy
Apply lube in three places: Generously coat the entire butt plug, apply directly to your anus externally, and if comfortable, use a lubricated finger to apply some internally just inside the anal opening.
Amount guidance: If you think you've used enough lube, add more. For reference, a beginner plug should use approximately 1-2 tablespoons (15-30ml) of lube per session. Experienced users often use even more.
Best anal lube characteristics: Thick, cushioning gel formulas that last 15-20 minutes before needing reapplication. Look for products specifically marketed as "anal lube" or "extra-thick" formulas. Brands like CleanStream (water-based and hybrid lubricants), Pjur Back Door (silicone—only for metal/glass), and Passion Lubes work excellently. Browse our complete anal lubricant collection for specialized formulas.
How to Insert a Butt Plug?
Preparation phase: Empty your bowels if possible—most people feel more comfortable and relaxed knowing they've had a recent bowel movement. Take a shower if it helps you feel clean and relaxed. Get comfortable in a private space where you won't be interrupted. For more detailed preparation techniques and safety protocols, see our complete anal play preparation guide.
Optional condom use: Place a condom over the butt plug if desired. This simplifies cleanup significantly, especially with textured or detailed plugs. Use non-lubricated condoms and add your own water-based lube generously.
🧘 Relaxation Techniques Before Insertion
The sphincter muscles naturally resist insertion—they're designed to push things out, not accept things in. Relaxation is the secret to comfortable insertion:
- Deep breathing: Take slow, deep breaths, exhaling fully. Your pelvic floor muscles relax during exhalation
- Mental relaxation: Watch erotic content, read stimulating material, or fantasize—arousal dramatically increases relaxation
- External massage: Spend 2-3 minutes massaging the external area with lubricated fingers before attempting insertion
- Comfortable position: Try lying on your side with knees pulled toward chest, squatting, or on hands and knees—experiment to find what works
- Other stimulation: Touch yourself elsewhere (genitals, nipples, erogenous zones) to increase overall arousal and relaxation. Consider using a vibrator or other toy for simultaneous stimulation
Insertion process—step by step:
Step 1: Position the tip of the plug at the anal entrance. Don't push yet—just get accustomed to the feel of the toy at your backdoor. The tapered tip should sit gently against the sphincter at a slight downward angle (toward your navel, not straight in).
Step 2: Take several deep breaths. On an exhale, apply gentle, steady pressure with the plug tip. The word here is slowly. No sudden movements or shoving. The goal is letting your body gradually accept the toy rather than forcing entry.
Step 3: You'll feel your sphincter muscles instinctively resist—this is normal. Maintain gentle, steady pressure while breathing deeply. The resistance typically releases after 15-30 seconds of patient, consistent pressure. If it doesn't, stop, add more lube, take a break, and try again.
Step 4: Once the tip enters (you'll feel a subtle "pop" sensation), pause for 30-60 seconds. Let your body adjust to the new sensation. The initial entry creates the most intense sensations—giving yourself time to acclimate is crucial.
Step 5: Slowly push the plug deeper, letting the gradually widening shape stretch you incrementally. The widest part of the plug requires the most patience—this is where beginners often rush and create discomfort. Take your time through this section.
Step 6: Once past the widest point, your sphincter will naturally close around the narrow neck. You'll feel the plug "settle" into position with the flared base resting comfortably outside your body.
🛑 When to Stop Immediately
- Sharp pain: Different from pressure or stretch—sharp pain indicates injury risk
- Tearing sensations: Even mild—stop and assess
- Bleeding: Any amount requires immediate removal and medical evaluation if it continues
- Extreme discomfort: Beyond normal stretch sensations
- Numbness or tingling: Suggests nerve compression
Remember: Mild pressure and stretch are normal, especially the first few times. Sharp pain or tearing sensations are not normal and require stopping. Don't expect to take the entire plug on your first try—it may require several sessions to work up to full insertion, and that's completely normal and healthy.
After insertion: Once the plug is fully seated, remain still for 1-2 minutes. Let your body fully adjust to the sensation. Many people find the initial fullness intensely pleasurable once the insertion process is complete. You can then move around, touch yourself elsewhere, or engage in other sexual activities with the plug in place.
💡 Evan's First-Time Success Tips
Don't rush progression: If you can only comfortably insert the tip during your first session, that's excellent progress. Next time, you might reach halfway. The session after, perhaps full insertion. There's no timeline—every body acclimates differently.
Arousal is your friend: Most people find insertion dramatically easier when highly aroused. Consider bringing yourself close to orgasm through other stimulation before attempting plug insertion.
Try different angles: The optimal insertion angle varies by anatomy. Experiment with angling the plug slightly toward your navel, toward your spine, or straight in to discover what works best for your body.
Size down if needed: If a plug feels impossible to insert despite proper technique and abundant lube, you may need a smaller starter size. There's zero shame in this—it's smart self-awareness. Visit our beginner butt plug collection for properly sized options.
Butt Plug Safety & Cleaning
The flared base requirement explained: Butt plugs absolutely must have bases significantly wider than the plug's widest point. The rectal sphincter can pull objects inside the rectum beyond reach, creating genuine medical emergencies requiring embarrassing hospital visits to remove lodged objects. Emergency room staff regularly treat people who used objects without proper bases—don't become a statistic in medical textbooks. Learn more about butt plug anatomy in our guide on what butt plugs are.
Post-play hygiene protocol:
After every session, always wash your butt plugs and hands thoroughly with warm water and mild, unscented soap. Never skip this step. For detailed cleaning instructions, see our comprehensive guide on how to clean your sex toys.
For people with vaginas: Avoid transferring any bacteria from the anus to the vulva or vagina, as this causes infections. Wash hands thoroughly before touching genital areas. If using the same toy anally and vaginally (not recommended), clean and sterilize between uses or use fresh condoms as barriers.
For everyone: Clean plugs immediately after removal. Dried bodily fluids are harder to clean and harbor bacteria more easily than fresh fluids.
🧼 Complete Cleaning & Sterilization Guide
Regular cleaning (after each use):
- Rinse with warm water to remove lube and bodily fluids
- Apply mild, unscented hand soap or specialized toy cleaner
- Scrub all surfaces gently with hands or soft cloth
- Pay special attention to textured areas, gems, decorative elements where debris hides
- Rinse thoroughly—soap residue can cause irritation during next use
- Pat dry with clean, lint-free towel or air dry completely
- Store in individual cloth bags or cases
Sterilization (weekly or before sharing):
Non-porous materials (platinum silicone, stainless steel, borosilicate glass) can be fully sterilized:
- Boiling method: Submerge in boiling water for 3-5 minutes (only for toys without electronics, batteries, or glued decorations)
- Dishwasher method: Place on top rack, run through full cycle without soap (heat sterilizes)
- Bleach solution: Mix 1 part bleach to 10 parts water, soak for 10 minutes, rinse exhaustively
Never sterilize: Porous materials (TPE/TPR, jelly, rubber), battery-operated toys, toys with motors, or plugs with glued decorative elements.
Safer sex practices: If sharing plugs between partners or using the same plug for multiple body sites:
- Use fresh condoms as barriers for each partner and each body site
- Clean thoroughly with soap and water between barrier changes
- Sterilize between partners if possible (non-porous materials only)
- Never go from anal to vaginal use without barrier replacement and sterilization
Additional safety reading: For more detailed information about sex toy hygiene, see our comprehensive article on how to clean your sex toys.
Best Sizes for Beginners and Advanced Butt Plug Users
Using appropriately sized butt plugs is critical for safe, comfortable, and pleasurable experiences. Sizes must be selected based on individual anatomy, experience level, and the ability to relax sphincter muscles. For a complete overview of sizing principles, read our guide on butt plug anatomy and sizing.
Why size matters so much: Too small and you won't feel satisfied or experience the plug's benefits. Too large and you risk discomfort, potential injury, tearing, or creating negative associations that discourage future exploration. Start conservatively—you can always size up, but you can't undo an uncomfortable experience.
| Experience Level | Diameter (Width) | Insertable Length | Neck Width | Characteristics |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Complete Beginner | 0.75-1.0 in (1.9-2.5 cm) |
3.0-3.5 in (7.6-8.9 cm) |
0.6-0.75 in (1.5-1.9 cm) |
Slim, smooth, tapered tip starting at 0.5 in (1.3 cm) or less |
| Beginner Comfortable | 1.0-1.25 in (2.5-3.2 cm) |
3.5-4.0 in (8.9-10.2 cm) |
0.75-0.85 in (1.9-2.2 cm) |
Noticeable fullness, gentle textures okay, more variety in shapes |
| Intermediate | 1.25-1.5 in (3.2-3.8 cm) |
4.0-4.5 in (10.2-11.4 cm) |
0.85-1.0 in (2.2-2.5 cm) |
Satisfying stretch, can handle moderate textures and shapes |
| Advanced | 1.5-2.0 in (3.8-5.1 cm) |
4.5-5.5 in (11.4-14 cm) |
1.0-1.2 in (2.5-3.0 cm) |
Substantial fullness, textured designs, extended wear comfortable |
| Expert/Size Training | 2.0+ in (5.1+ cm) |
5.0-6.0 in (12.7-15.2 cm) |
1.2-1.5 in (3.0-3.8 cm) |
Intense stretch, requires significant warmup, experienced users only. See huge anal toys |
Scenario-specific sizing considerations:
Preparing for anal intercourse with a partner: The main consideration is your partner's penis diameter. Measure it accurately (girth/circumference divided by 3.14 equals diameter). If the diameter is large (over 1.5 inches / 3.8 cm), purchase multiple plugs of increasing sizes. Start with a plug approximately 0.75 inches (1.9 cm), then progress through 1.0 inch (2.5 cm), 1.25 inches (3.2 cm), and finally to a size matching your partner's dimensions. Consider an anal training kit with progressive sizes.
Double penetration preparation (for people with vaginas): If you're of average height and have no anal experience, start with the minimum diameter jeweled plug (approximately 0.75-1.0 inches / 1.9-2.5 cm). The goal is comfortable fullness that enhances vaginal sensations without being distracting or uncomfortable. You want to feel pleasantly full, not overstuffed.
Long-term wear or all-day scenarios: Choose plugs approximately 0.25 inches (0.6 cm) smaller in diameter than what you're comfortable with during play. The neck width matters more for extended wear—narrower necks (0.6-0.75 inches / 1.5-1.9 cm) are more comfortable for hours-long sessions. Read more in our guide on safe wear duration.
⚠️ Beginner Sizing Mistakes to Avoid
Don't let greedy eyes fool your judgment. Beginners commonly buy plugs that are too large, thinking "I'll grow into it" or overestimating their readiness. This creates the following problems:
- Painful first experiences that discourage further exploration
- Risk of tissue damage or tearing
- Expensive toys that sit unused in drawers
- Frustration and negative associations with anal play
The smart approach: Start with a plug that seems almost too small. Experience comfortable, pleasurable sessions that build positive associations. Size up gradually as your confidence and comfort grow. This approach costs the same long-term but ensures success rather than disappointment. Browse our beginner butt plug collection for appropriately sized starter options.
For advanced users returning after breaks: If you've taken extended time away from anal play (3+ months), start fresh with small sizes and gradually work back up. The sphincter muscles maintain their strength, and jumping straight to large sizes after breaks causes discomfort. Budget 2-4 weeks to return to your previous comfort level—this timeline shortens with each subsequent break.
💡 Evan's Sizing Progression Strategy
The 3-plug beginner journey: Instead of buying one medium plug and struggling, invest in three sizes:
- Plug 1: 0.75-1.0 inch (1.9-2.5 cm) diameter—your gentle introduction
- Plug 2: 1.0-1.25 inches (2.5-3.2 cm) diameter—your comfortable regular size
- Plug 3: 1.25-1.5 inches (3.2-3.8 cm) diameter—your "special occasion" size
Use Plug 1 for 3-5 sessions until it feels easy. Graduate to Plug 2 for regular use. Keep Plug 3 for when you want more intensity. This progression builds confidence, ensures comfort, and prevents the common mistake of buying one expensive plug that's too large. Many manufacturers offer anal training kits with progressive sizing.
Total investment: Three quality silicone plugs cost $60-120 total—less than one premium large plug you can't use comfortably. The small investment in progression pays dividends in pleasure and success.
Prance Around Your Partner While Wearing Your Butt Plug
Choosing your butt plug model with a partner can be one of the funniest and most erotic experiences. It opens worlds of options that let you discover each other's preferences and explore new desires together.
Role-play and fantasy integration: Getting into character as a playful puppy can help fulfill sexual fantasies for both partners. Wanting pet play dynamics doesn't mean anything is wrong with you—in fact, a healthy, active, diverse sex life is extremely positive for relationship satisfaction and individual wellbeing.
When experimenting with decorative butt plugs (tails, jeweled bases, unique designs), you acquire experience and preferences as you try different shapes, sizes, and models. A tail plug isn't just for experts—beginners can enjoy the visual excitement and roleplay elements even with small plug sizes.
Visual tease opportunities: What are you waiting for? Start wagging your tail butt plug, prance around your partner showing off your bejeweled backdoor, or surprise them with decorative bases that add visual excitement to intimate moments. The psychological arousal from visual elements enhances physical pleasure significantly.
Communication enhancers: Shopping for plugs together, discussing what appeals to each of you, and exploring aesthetic preferences builds intimacy and communication skills that benefit all aspects of your relationship. These conversations normalize sexual exploration and desire. Consider exploring our couples' sex toy collection for additional playful options.
How to Remove Your Butt Plug?
After wearing your butt plug for the desired duration, removal requires the same patience and care as insertion—perhaps even more. The widest part must exit first, which is opposite from insertion when the narrow tip entered first.
The removal challenge: Your sphincter has tightened around the plug's narrow neck and may not want to release when you start pulling. This is normal sphincter behavior—it grips objects. Attempting to rush removal or apply excessive force causes discomfort and potential tissue damage.
🔄 Step-by-Step Removal Process
Apply additional water-based lube around the base and neck area. This dramatically eases removal by reducing friction around the widest part. Keep your favorite water-based lubricant nearby for reapplication.
Take several deep breaths. Your sphincter relaxes during exhalation, just like during insertion. Don't hold your breath or tense up—this makes removal harder.
Hold onto the stem or base firmly. Never pull on decorative elements like tails, gems, or wings—these can detach or break, potentially leaving the plug inside. Always grasp the solid structural base.
While gently pulling on the base, bear down slightly with your sphincter muscles as if having a bowel movement. This relaxes the sphincter and helps push the plug outward. Pull and push simultaneously in gentle, coordinated motions.
Pull slowly at a slight downward angle (toward the floor if standing, toward your feet if lying down). The widest part will create the most resistance—maintain gentle, steady pressure rather than jerking or yanking. The widest section typically takes 15-30 seconds of patient pulling to exit comfortably.
Once the widest point passes through, the rest slides out easily—often faster than expected. Control the final exit to avoid rapid removal which can feel jarring.
What to expect during removal: Initially, you may feel like nothing is happening despite pulling gently. This is normal—keep applying gentle, steady pressure while coordinating with your sphincter's pushing motions. Suddenly, you'll feel the widest part begin moving. Continue the gentle pressure and before you know it, the plug will pop free.
🚨 If a Plug Feels Stuck
Don't panic—this happens occasionally and is usually easily resolved:
- Stop pulling and take a break for 2-3 minutes
- Apply significantly more lubricant—be generous
- Try different positions (squatting often works better than lying down)
- Attempt removal during/after a warm shower—heat relaxes muscles
- If still stuck after 10-15 minutes of gentle attempts, seek medical attention
Never: Continue forcing removal if you experience sharp pain, see bleeding, or feel tearing sensations. Medical professionals handle stuck plugs regularly—they've seen everything and won't judge. Getting proper help prevents serious injury.
Post-removal sensations: After removing a plug, you may feel temporarily "empty" or notice mild sensitivity around the anus. Both sensations are completely normal and resolve within 15-30 minutes. Some people experience brief soreness—this should be mild and gone within a few hours. Persistent pain lasting beyond a few hours warrants medical evaluation.
Pro Tips For Using a Butt Plug Like a Pornstar
✓ Essential Pro Tips for Expert-Level Pleasure
- Look for a butt plug with a flared base to ensure your anal play is as safe as possible—learn more in our butt plug basics guide
- Opt for body-safe, non-porous materials such as platinum silicone, stainless steel (316/304 grade), and tempered borosilicate glass. Browse our silicone, metal, and glass anal toy collections
- For easier entry, insert a toy with a pointed tip into the anus at a slight downward angle (toward your navel)
- To help you relax, try deep breathing exercises and a vibrating plug - and don't forget non-anal stimulation during insertion
- Lube up! Having the right lube for the right occasion is non-negotiable - water-based for silicone/latex/rubber, any type for steel/glass. See our complete lube guide
- Size progression builds success - start smaller than you think you need and gradually work up over multiple sessions using anal training kits
- Temperature play for advanced users - metal and glass plugs can be warmed in warm water or cooled in the refrigerator (test on wrist first)
- Combination stimulation - wear plugs during other sexual activities like masturbation, oral sex, or intercourse for enhanced sensation
- Communication during partnered play - establish clear verbal and non-verbal signals before beginning, check in frequently
- Listen to your body always - discomfort means slow down or stop; pleasure means you're doing it right
How Long Can You Leave Your Butt Plug In?
We know: Butt plugs can be super fun. It's not surprising you'd want to enjoy that frisky feeling all day long. It certainly could make day-to-day activities more exciting, right? But before you attempt extended wear, there are critical safety considerations you need to understand.
Expert consensus on duration: The sexual wellness experts at The Dildo Hub and most reputable sex toy manufacturers advise wearing butt plugs for no more than 2-3 hours at a time, with 30-45 minutes being ideal for beginners. For detailed duration guidelines by experience level and extended wear protocols, see our complete guide on how long you can safely wear a butt plug. Not only is that ample time to enjoy a butt plug's many pleasure-boosting effects, but it's also a matter of personal safety and anal health.
Why time limits matter:
- Blood flow reduction: Prolonged pressure on anal tissues reduces blood circulation, potentially causing tissue damage
- Muscle fatigue: Sphincter muscles tire from holding the plug in position, leading to discomfort and reduced muscle function
- Infection risk: Extended wear, especially beyond 3-4 hours, increases bacterial growth and infection potential
- Nerve compression: Sustained pressure can compress nerves, causing temporary numbness or tingling
- Tissue irritation: Even with adequate lube, friction over hours irritates delicate anal tissues
Duration guidelines by experience:
| Experience Level | Safe Duration | Maximum Duration | Notes |
|---|---|---|---|
| Complete beginner (first 5 uses) | 10-15 minutes | 30 minutes | Build tolerance gradually; focus on comfort |
| Beginner comfortable (uses 6-20) | 20-30 minutes | 45-60 minutes | Can engage in other activities while wearing |
| Intermediate (regular user) | 30-60 minutes | 90 minutes | Comfortable with movement and basic activities |
| Advanced (experienced user) | 1-2 hours | 2-3 hours | Remove for 30-60 min before re-inserting |
⚠️ All-Day Wear: Special Considerations
If you want to wear a plug for special occasions lasting 4-8 hours (parties, dates, events), follow these protocols:
- Remove every 2-3 hours: Take 30-60 minute breaks to restore blood flow and let tissues recover
- Size down significantly: Use a plug 0.25-0.5 inches (0.6-1.3 cm) smaller than your comfortable play size
- Narrow neck priority: Choose plugs with very narrow necks (0.6-0.75 inches / 1.5-1.9 cm) for extended comfort
- Reapply lube during breaks: Remove, clean, relubricate, and reinsert—don't just wear continuously
- Stay hydrated and nourished: Proper hydration and nutrition support tissue health
- Avoid strenuous activity: No heavy lifting, intense exercise, or activities that increase abdominal pressure
The anal training myth debunked: Contrary to popular belief, wearing butt plugs all day long won't help with anal training—whether depth or stretching goals. You can have peace of mind knowing that extended butt plug wearing won't loosen your anus. The anus is an incredible thing that's super efficient at doing its job, which is to contract to hold contents in your rectum and relax when it's time to eliminate. Not a massive butt plug nor physiological needs can keep it from bouncing back to its original size.
Effective anal training: If your goal is accommodating larger sizes, short sessions (15-30 minutes) with progressively larger plugs 3-4 times weekly are far more effective and safer than extended wear. The body adapts to stretching through repeated exposure, not sustained duration. Consider using an anal training kit with graduated sizes for systematic progression.
What Material is Best For Your First Butt Plug?
If you're curious about anal play, choosing butt plugs made from body-safe materials is critical for exploring different sensations without health risks or safety concerns. Butt plugs come in a variety of materials—stainless steel, shatter-resistant borosilicate glass, super-plush silicone, jelly, rubber, and even wood—and tend to be softer and more flexible as you go down that list (except wood, obviously). Softer plugs are usually recommended for beginners because they have a good combination of flexibility and firmness. For comprehensive material education, see our guide on butt plug materials and construction.
| Material | Safety | Best For | Pros | Cons | Beginner Rating |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Platinum-Cure Silicone | Non-porous, hypoallergenic | Beginners, all users | Flexible, body-safe, easy cleaning, long-lasting, affordable. Shop our silicone anal toy collection. | Requires water-based lube, can tear with sharp objects | ✓ Excellent |
| Stainless Steel (316/304) | Non-porous, hypoallergenic | Advanced users | Any lube works, ultra-durable, temperature play, heavy/firm. Browse metal anal toys. | No flex, must size perfectly, cold initially, higher cost | ⚠ Advanced |
| Borosilicate Glass | Non-porous, hypoallergenic | Intermediate users | Any lube works, ultra-smooth, beautiful, temperature play. See our glass anal toy collection. | Can chip/crack, requires careful handling, firm/no flex | ⚠ Intermediate |
| TPE/TPR | Porous (harbors bacteria) | Budget-conscious | Soft, affordable, flexible | Cannot sterilize, 6-12 month lifespan, requires condoms if sharing | ✗ Not Recommended |
| Jelly/PVC | Often contains phthalates | None | Very cheap | Potentially harmful chemicals, porous, degrades quickly, strong odor | ✗ Avoid |
Platinum-Cure Silicone (Best for Beginners)
Why silicone is ideal for first-timers: Platinum-cure (medical-grade) silicone combines safety with practical benefits that make it perfect for learning anal play.
Key benefits:
- Non-porous surface: Doesn't absorb fluids or harbor bacteria—you can clean it thoroughly and trust it's sanitary
- Hypoallergenic: Minimal allergy risk—suitable for sensitive skin
- Flexibility range: Available in soft to firm densities; medium firmness balances structure with comfort. Shop our silicone anal toy collection for beginner-friendly options.
- Forgiveness: The slight flex means small sizing mistakes won't create discomfort
- Durability: Properly cared for silicone plugs last years or decades
- Affordable: Quality silicone plugs cost $20-60
Critical reminder: Always use water-based lubricant with silicone toys. Silicone-based lube chemically bonds to silicone surfaces.
Stainless Steel (Advanced Option)
Feel characteristics: Heavy, firm, smooth, temperature-conductive. Steel provides unique sensations silicone can't replicate.
Benefits:
- Weight and pressure: Creates deep, satisfying fullness and "presence"
- Temperature play: Warm in water or cool in refrigerator for temperature sensations
- Ultra-smooth: Nearly frictionless with proper lubrication
- Any lube compatible: Water, silicone, or oil-based all work. Browse our metal anal toy collection for premium steel options.
- Lifetime durability: Virtually indestructible
Why it's advanced: Zero flexibility means perfect sizing required. Weight requires hand strength. Temperature conductivity adds complexity.
Borosilicate Glass (Intermediate Option)
Feel characteristics: Ultra-smooth glide, firm precision, beautiful aesthetics.
Benefits:
- Ultra-smooth glide: Friction-free insertion; requires less lube
- Temperature play: Warms and cools like metal
- Visual appeal: Artistic and beautiful designs. See our glass anal toy collection for elegant options.
- Easy sterilization: Boil or dishwasher safe
Why it's intermediate: Can chip or crack if dropped; requires visual inspection; firmness is unforgiving.
💡 Evan's Material Selection Strategy
For your first butt plug, choose platinum-cure silicone without hesitation. It offers the best combination of safety, comfort, affordability, and longevity for beginners. You can always expand to steel or glass later once you know exactly what sizes, shapes, and sensations work perfectly for your body. Start your journey with our curated beginner butt plug collection.
Verify quality: Look for explicit "platinum-cure silicone" or "medical-grade silicone" labeling—not just "silicone" or "silicone blend." Reputable manufacturers clearly state material composition. If product listings are vague, that's a red flag.
How to Choose a Butt Plug?
Truth is, butt plugs are hella good. If you're interested in anal play, consider trying a butt plug for added stimulation during partnered or solo sex. Butt plugs can feel amazing, but they're not everyone's cup of tea. Be sure to go slow and play safe, and don't give up at the first sign of discomfort—sometimes a tweak in your technique is all you need.
For foundational knowledge, start with our guide on what butt plugs are and how they work. For detailed plug selection guidance, including material comparisons, shape considerations, and feature analysis, see our comprehensive article on how to choose a butt plug.
🎯 Quick Plug Selection Framework
Determines size range: Complete beginner (0.75-1.0"), Comfortable beginner (1.0-1.25"), Intermediate (1.25-1.5"), Advanced (1.5-2.0"+). Browse by size in our beginner collection.
Affects shape and feature priorities: Solo = comfortable for extended wear; Partnered = visual appeal, hands-free capability. Explore couples' toys.
Neck width becomes critical: Short sessions (any neck); Extended wear (narrow 0.6-0.75" necks). Read about safe wear duration.
Platinum silicone offers best value ($20-60); Steel/glass are premium ($40-120+). Check our budget-friendly options.
Prostate stimulation (curved designs), Double penetration prep (small/medium), Anal sex training (progressive sizes), Just exploration (standard shapes)
If you're still not feeling it after trying butt plugs, that's not really a problem. Anal play isn't limited to using butt plugs. Have you tried anal beads or P-Spot prostate massagers? Those may as well be the icing on the cake for you! You can also explore our complete anal toy collection for other options like anal vibrators or anal dildos.
Butt Plugs Mean Business - Pleasure for Your P-Spot or A-Spot
If you're looking to try butt play, might we suggest having your partner use a butt plug during intercourse? It isn't just about "warming up for anal sex." Quite the contrary—using a plug can simply enhance overall sexual play in general. It can really change the game.
Using a Butt Plug to Stimulate Your Partner's A-Spot
A-Spot anatomy explained: There is a pressure-based, nerve-rich area in the back region of the vagina that can be reached during butt play and anal sex! Because of its location at the back end of the clitoris, hovering near the cervix, the A-spot is pushed against the rectum. The vaginal wall and anus are next-door neighbors inside of the body.
With the right angling of a butt plug, you can reach this area. It won't work for every vulva-owner's body, but for those who enjoy anal stimulation, it can be a super sexy turning point. Consider exploring with toys designed for people with vaginas in combination with butt plugs.
📚 Clitoral Anatomy Education
Did you know the A-Spot is part of the clitoris? That's right. The clitoris goes far beyond the bud you see at the top of the inner labia. It extends inside the body up to five full inches, and it's roughly the size of the average penis (we aren't joking). It has bulbs and legs that sit under the labia and reach back into the abdomen.
Understanding this anatomy explains why many people with vaginas find anal play unexpectedly pleasurable even without direct genital stimulation—the sensations are interconnected through shared tissue and nerve pathways. Combine with G-spot stimulation or clitoral toys for enhanced pleasure.
Optimal plug characteristics for A-spot stimulation:
- Bulbous shape: Rounded, wide midsection creates maximum pressure against the shared wall
- Medium to firm material: Soft silicone compresses too much; firm silicone, steel, or glass maintain pressure
- Moderate size: 1.0-1.5 inches (2.5-3.8 cm) diameter provides sufficient pressure without being uncomfortable
- Curved or angled: Plugs that angle toward the front of the body (belly side) target the shared wall more effectively
Using a Butt Plug to Stimulate Your Partner's P-Spot
No shade to the classic hand job or blow job, but there's so much more to the world of penile stimulation than just touching or orally stimulating yourself or your partner(s). There's no dearth of information out there on how to juice up your regular hand job or blow job, but if you and your partner(s) really want to bring things to the next level, you'll probably consider prostate play at some point.
And yes, while you can stimulate a prostate with your fingers, the best butt plugs are already specifically curved and designed to take the prostate guesswork out of the equation. A prostate orgasm is absolutely unique and nothing comes close to it. For dedicated prostate toys, explore our prostate massager collection and vibrating prostate toys.
There are different types of orgasms, and each of them can feel totally unique. While most people with penises are used to reaching orgasm through the stimulation of their penis, they're usually not so acquainted with the sensation of coming thanks to internal stimulation. The prostate-induced orgasm hits differently because it is initiated from inside the body. It feels like you're being pleasured from the inside. Ready when you are?
🎯 Prostate Location & Optimal Plug Features
Where is the prostate? Located approximately 2-3 inches (5-7.6 cm) inside the anal canal, toward the front of the body (belly side). It's roughly walnut-sized and feels slightly firmer than surrounding tissue.
Best plug features for prostate stimulation:
- Curved or angled shaft: Curves toward the front to apply direct pressure. See our prostate massager collection
- Bulbous head or pronounced ridge: Creates specific pressure point
- Moderate length: 3.5-4.5 inches (8.9-11.4 cm) insertable
- Firm material: Maintains consistent pressure
- Optional vibration: Adds intense stimulation. Browse vibrating prostate toys
Also explore toys designed specifically for people with penises including cock rings and male masturbators to combine with butt plug use.
Our Top 5 Hand-Picked Beginner Butt Plugs
Based on material safety, beginner-appropriate sizing, quality construction, and customer satisfaction, here are our top recommendations for first-time buyers. For more options, browse our complete beginner butt plug collection.
1. Ruby Heart Steel Butt Plug
Material: Stainless steel 316 | Size: Small (beginner-friendly) | Base: Heart-shaped jewel
Bedazzle your booty and show off your shining heart with this Ruby Red Heart Anal Plug. This shiny metal butt plug has a classic shape and an endearing heart-shaped jewel for stimulating and visually stunning anal play.
Why it's great for beginners: Small size provides gentle introduction; stainless steel is non-porous and fully sterilizable; smooth surface requires minimal lube; jeweled base adds aesthetic excitement; weight creates satisfying fullness; works with any lubricant type. More jeweled options in our decorative plug collection.
2. Chrome Blast 7X Rechargeable Butt Plug with Remote Control - Small
Material: Stainless steel with motor | Features: 7 vibration patterns, wireless remote, IPX7 waterproof
This smooth, metal butt plug is easy to use and delicious to experience! Enjoy easy insertion with the tapered end. Take pleasure in the non-porous, nickel-free metal as it slides inside. The heavy, weighted metal is compatible with all lubricant types and IP7X waterproofed. Enjoy the cool metal or warm it up in warm water before inserting.
Why it's great for beginners: Small size with vibration options; remote control convenience; waterproof for shower experimentation; rechargeable eliminates battery hassles. Explore more vibrating butt plugs and remote-controlled toys.
3. Large Vibrating Anal Plug with Interchangeable Fox Tail - Black and White
Material: Premium platinum-cure silicone | Features: Detachable tail, vibrating
Indulge in your primal fantasies with this large vibrating anal plug and black and white fox tail kit! The slim anal plug is made from premium grade silicone so you can play worry free knowing your toy is phthalate-free and body safe! The tapered tip makes it easy to insert and the plush yet firm body of the plug is comfortable and pleasurable to wear.
Why it's great for beginners: Platinum silicone is ideal first material; detachable tail simplifies cleaning; vibration adds stimulation; tail adds roleplay excitement; body-safe construction. Browse more tail plugs and vibrating options.
4. Booty Bloom Silicone Rose Anal Plug - Large
Material: Velvety platinum-cure silicone | Design: Realistic rose petals
Decorate your derriere with this blooming anal plug rose! Crafted from velvety silicone and shaped with individual petals for a realistic and satisfying texture - the long neck and tapered tip make this plug easy to insert and comfortable to squeeze on, perfect for all anal skill levels.
Why it's great for beginners: Beautiful aesthetic; velvety silicone feels luxurious; long neck excellent for extended wear; tapered tip aids insertion; unique design makes anal play feel special. See more decorative designs in our fantasy collection.
5. Remote Control 21X Vibrating Silicone Swirl Butt Plug - Purple
Material: Premium platinum-cure silicone | Features: 21 vibration patterns, remote control
Enjoy the delicious swirling pattern of this Silicone Swirl butt plug! Plush and bumpy to provide a satisfying fill and an addictive mass for your ass to squeeze - perfect for use solo but can also be use with a lover to spice up your one on one time. Made with premium materials and equipped with a powerful motor for intense vibrations when needed!
Why it's great for beginners: Platinum silicone safety; shallow swirl texture introduces gentle sensations; 21 patterns provide variety; remote control convenience; powerful motor. Explore our full vibrating plug collection and remote-controlled toys.
Browse more options: Visit our complete butt plug collection with filters for size, material, features, and price. Also explore anal training kits with multiple graduated sizes for systematic progression.
Frequently Asked Questions About Butt Plug Use
Push slowly and gently—there's no rush whatsoever. Stop immediately if you feel sharp pain (mild pressure is normal during insertion). Let your body adjust for 30-60 seconds at various points during insertion—patience prevents discomfort. The widest part of the plug requires the most patience and time—this is where beginners most commonly rush and create problems.
Once past the widest point, your sphincter will naturally close around the narrow neck section, and you'll feel the plug "settle" into its proper position. The flared base should sit comfortably outside your body—never push the base inside. Start with very short sessions (10-15 minutes) and gradually increase duration as your comfort and confidence build. For foundational knowledge, read our guide on what butt plugs are.
For stainless steel or borosilicate glass plugs: Any lube type works—water-based, silicone-based, or even oil-based. These non-porous materials don't react with lubricants. However, water-based remains easiest to clean regardless of toy material.
Apply generously—use far more than you think you need. The anus doesn't self-lubricate like the vagina, so external lubrication is absolutely essential. Look for thick, cushioning water-based lubes specifically marketed for anal use—they last 15-20 minutes before needing reapplication. Reapply every 15-20 minutes during extended sessions. For detailed lube comparisons and product recommendations, see our complete anal lube guide. Browse our anal lubricant collection for specialized formulas.
Duration guidelines by experience level:
- Complete beginners (first 5 uses): 10-15 minutes safe, 30 minutes maximum
- Comfortable beginners (uses 6-20): 20-30 minutes safe, 45-60 minutes maximum
- Intermediate users: 30-60 minutes safe, 90 minutes maximum
- Advanced experienced users: 1-2 hours safe, 2-3 hours maximum
If you want all-day wear for special occasions, remove the plug every 2-3 hours for at least 30-60 minutes to restore blood flow. The sphincter muscles need breaks to maintain healthy function. Listen to your body—remove immediately if you experience numbness, sharp pain, or extreme discomfort. Shop beginner-friendly plugs with comfortable neck widths for extended wear.
Additional sizing specifications to look for:
- Tapered tip: Should start at 0.5 inches (1.3 cm) diameter or less for easy entry
- Narrow neck: Approximately 0.6-0.75 inches (1.5-1.9 cm) for comfortable extended wear
- Flared base: Must be wider than the plug's maximum diameter—non-negotiable safety feature
- Smooth or very light texture: Avoid aggressive textures for first plugs
Your first plug might seem surprisingly small—that's intentional and appropriate. Start conservatively because you can always size up once comfortable, but you cannot undo an uncomfortable experience with a too-large plug. When in doubt, always choose the smaller option. Consider purchasing an anal training kit with multiple graduated sizes for systematic progression. For comprehensive sizing guidance, see our article on butt plug sizing principles.
Gently grasp the base (or stem if present)—never pull on decorative elements like tails, gems, or wings as these can detach. Pull slowly at a slight downward angle while simultaneously bearing down gently with your sphincter muscles as if having a bowel movement. This relaxes the muscles and helps push the plug outward.
The widest part will create the most resistance during removal—this is when patience matters most. Maintain gentle, steady pressure rather than jerking or yanking. Once the widest point passes through, the rest slides out easily. Never rush or force removal—patience prevents discomfort and potential tissue damage. For detailed step-by-step removal instructions, see the removal section in our complete usage guide.
Safety advantages: Non-porous surface doesn't harbor bacteria, hypoallergenic with minimal allergy risk, no harmful chemicals or phthalates, FDA-approved for medical device use.
Practical benefits: Flexible with some give (forgives minor sizing errors), easy to clean with soap and water, can be boiled for sterilization (if no electronics), lasts years with proper care, affordable ($20-60 for quality plugs).
Alternative materials for experienced users: Stainless steel (firm, heavy, temperature play) and borosilicate glass (ultra-smooth, beautiful) work excellently but require perfect sizing as they have zero flex.
Materials to avoid completely: Jelly, rubber, or PVC (porous, harbor bacteria, may contain harmful chemicals), TPE/TPR (porous, cannot be sterilized, short lifespan). For comprehensive material education, see our guide on butt plug materials and construction.
The safety problem: The rectal sphincter can pull objects inside the rectum beyond reach. Unlike the vagina (which has the cervix as a natural stop), the rectum connects to a long intestinal tract. Objects without proper bases can travel deep inside, creating genuine medical emergencies requiring hospital visits and potentially surgery.
What qualifies as adequate flare: The base must be significantly wider than the plug's widest diameter—typically at least 1.5x the maximum plug width. The base must be solid and substantial, unable to slip through even with pressure.
Medical professionals regularly remove lodged rectal objects from people who used items without proper bases. Don't become a cautionary tale. Never use anything anally that doesn't have a substantial flared base, handle, or retrieval system. Shop only from reputable retailers like our body-safe butt plug collection where all products meet safety standards.
References & Further Reading
- Material Safety Standards: Platinum-cure silicone biocompatibility (ISO 10993), body-safe material certifications for adult toys
- Anal Health Resources: Medical guidelines for safe anal play, sphincter anatomy and function, infection prevention protocols. See our comprehensive anal play guide
- Sexual Wellness Research: Studies on anal pleasure, nerve density in anal tissue, prostate stimulation benefits
- Cleaning and Sterilization: CDC guidelines for non-porous materials, bacterial colonization on sex toys, best practices for toy maintenance. Read our complete cleaning guide
- Consumer Safety: Emergency room statistics on lodged rectal objects, flared base requirements, injury prevention
- Manufacturer Specifications: Compiled care guidelines and safety protocols from leading body-safe toy manufacturers
Note: This educational content synthesizes industry best practices, medical guidelines, manufacturer recommendations, and sexual wellness principles. It is not medical advice. Consult healthcare providers for personal health concerns or questions about your specific body and circumstances.
Explore more educational content: Visit our Sexual Wellness Blog for comprehensive guides on all aspects of intimate pleasure and sexual health.
| Consideration | Beginner Priority | What to Look For | Why It Matters |
|---|---|---|---|
| Size | Critical | 0.75-1.0" (1.9-2.5 cm) diameter, 3.0-3.5" (7.6-8.9 cm) length. Shop beginner sizes | Too large creates negative first experiences; start small and progress |
| Material | Critical | Platinum-cure silicone, stainless steel, or glass. See silicone, metal, glass | Non-porous materials prevent bacterial growth and infection risk |
| Flared Base | Mandatory | Base 1.5x wider than plug maximum diameter | Prevents over-insertion medical emergencies; non-negotiable safety |
| Tapered Tip | High | Tip starting at 0.5" (1.3 cm) or less | Gradual width increase makes insertion comfortable and manageable |
| Narrow Neck | High | 0.6-0.75" (1.5-1.9 cm) for extended wear | Comfortable "parking spot" for sphincter during wear |
| Smooth Texture | Moderate | No or very light texture (under 2mm depth) | Easier insertion, less friction, gentler for first experiences |
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