But what is BDSM, exactly? In short, it’s an acronym for bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism. (Though, occasionally, the D stands for "domination" and the S stands for "submission.") BDSM is the consensual, risk-aware, and pleasurable practice of playing with things like power, restraint, and pain.
If you’re intrigued by the power play, sensory deprivation, and the paradox of pain versus pleasure, you might want to update your bedroom toolkit with some BDSM toys.
🤔 BDSM Accessories Can Be a True Sex Game Changer
Power games to increase pleasure - that's what BDSM is. But what's the best way to start? Below, we will tell you about popular BDSM gear you can try with yourself or your partner. This includes BDSM blindfolds, mouth gags, floggers, and collars.
Engaging in new sex adventures isn't for everyone. But if you dare, you might discover a whole new side to yourself - and to your partner. This can bring new emotions to long-standing relationships and promote a sense of one's own sexuality. In the spirit of "nothing ventured, nothing gained", we, therefore, dedicate ourselves here to the topic of BDSM and show you what basic rules and accessories for BDSM play. Read what we've got to say before you engage in your first, or next, BDSM accessories shopping experience
😈 What Exactly is BDSM and Are There Any Rules?
BDSM comes from the English Bondage, Dominance, Sadism, and Masochism and describes practices around power games, dominance and submission, pleasure-pain, and bondage games. Handcuffs, ropes, and other equipment can be used to torture your partner with pleasure. All this happens only by mutual consent and can be interrupted or ended at any time. Only those who feel comfortable can let themselves go and experience the role play and other BDSM games.
Do you think you're kinky enough and would really want to know what BDSM feels like? You should know these basic rules beforehand.
When exploring info about BDSM, you will often come across important terms like sub, top, bottom, or Dom. Sub or bottom describe the person being subjected to play. Top or Dom describes the person who is in control and acts as the dominant partner in kinky play.
The "safe word" is an important part of the power play. Both partners must know at all times that they can stop the other's action by saying the agreed-upon "safe word." Mutual trust and respect is the be-all and end-all rule for all participants to be able to engage in the adventure without any worries. BDSM should always be safe, sane, and consensual!
Anything that pleases both partners is permitted in BDSM as long as partners have a mutual agreement regarding each activity they try. However, some things may be quite dangerous and should be avoided even if both people enjoy them. For instance, bondage games involving the neck are not advisable. The risk of strangulation and cardiac arrest is too high, even for healthy adult couples.
It is advisable to always have scissors or a cutter nearby for safety. In the event of an emergency, quick action can be taken by the other partner.
If you are just starting to think about BDSM, talk to your partner beforehand about their no-go's and desires. This way, you can move from vanilla sex to kinky games together. For example, start by using a tie for bondage and choose simple bondage techniques until you get more experience with restraints.
🍑 Types of BDSM Accessories You Could Buy
Blindfolds: Imagine total sensory deprivation: your eyes are shielded from even a glimmer of light, sounds are muffled, and your breaths are suppressed. All in all, your feel strong tingling and electrifying sensations throughout your body's skin. Every part of your being is tuned into the pleasure that is about to devour you. You can feel your Dom's fingers caress your neck, your chest, your buttocks, the small of your back, or the inside of your legs.
Mouth Gags: When a BDSM play gets serious, silence becomes golden - a hot addition that could make all the difference in intense erotic role play. If you’ve ever played around with BDSM or at least watched others do it, you might have seen them use some form of gags. You might have also thought about consensually preventing your partner from talking. Then it’s time to get accustomed to this category of sex toys - mouth gags or ball gags. You might have them referred to as “ball gags,” but that’s just one type of gag in production. A mouth gag is an easy-to-use tool used in sexual bondage and Dominant/sub roleplay. You strap the gag into your mouth, which many consider a very private and intimate part of your body, to arouse feelings of vulnerability, helplessness, humiliation, frustration, embarrassment, submission, etc...
Restraints: A bondage restraint is a sex restraint that is used during sexual activities. These types of restraints are most common in bondage play and BDSM scenes. They are designed to keep a submissive from escaping or moving. They are often used during acts such as erotic humiliation, cock-and-ball torture, and discipline. Being restrained helps increase a submissive's feelings of helplessness and humiliation, and makes it appear as though a dominant is in complete control.
Wartenberg Pinwheel: The Wartenberg Pinwheel is a wonderful sensation play toy that is a must for everyone's kinky bondage tool kit. Pinwheels look like small pizza cutters but have tiny spikes on the end around the wheel. To use a Wartenberg wheel, roll it firmly but gently across your lover’s skin. If you apply a great amount of pressure, it’s possible to pierce the skin. Be sure to test it on yourself to find the right touch before trying it on others. It’s great to use paired up with sensory deprivation and feels best rolled over tender areas like nipples, the back of the neck, inside of the thighs, etc.
Body Clamps: Clamps offer so many possibilities. They can be used on the labia, testicles, tongues and lips, and other parts of the body. Adjustable, tweezer-style clamps have the lightest grip while Japanese clover clamps are intended for those who can tolerate a lot of pressure. One of the best things to use as starter clamps is simple wooden clothespins.
Dildos & Vibrators: We know that must come off as a surprise, however, dildos and vibrators are absolutely great for BDSM pleasure, pain, and power play sessions. One of the most popular types of vibrators for BDSM is wand-style body massagers. A cordless version is perfect to affix to someone's body with rope bondage or bondage tape. Vibrators can be used for pleasure or consensual forced orgasm play. Don’t forget, they aren’t just for vulvas and vaginas; penises like vibration too. It’s also a good idea to also have some non-vibrating insertables in close proximity, like a butt plug or curved glass toy for a quick and unexpected P-Spot stimulation.
Riding Crops: In case you weren't aware, a riding crop is a whip that is primarily designed for whipping horses during horse-riding races to make them go faster or encourage them to do things or behave in a certain way. However, they’re also very popular in BDSM sex cultures as impact tools, finding a second niche as BDSM spanking tools for beginners and enthusiast spankers alike!
Most modern riding crops consist of a fiberglass shaft which is firm yet flexible and covered in leather or a similar material. The handle is usually thicker than the main shaft, making it easier to hold, and the whipping end has a tress, leather tongue, cord, or a similar piece of material called a “keeper” or a “popper” which is the part that hits the subject of spanking.
Canes: A BDSM cane is a long whip, paddle, or cane used during BDSM play to whip or spank a partner. These canes are usually made from leather, faux leather, silicone, plastic, bamboo, or rattan, and are available in both straight & crook (curved handle) variants. Depending on the material used, a BDSM cane can deliver a sharp stinging sensation, a dull "thud" or "thump", or anywhere in-between!
Flogger: Bondage floggers and whips make up an important part of virtually any BDSM play session. If you or your partner have some experience with kink, it is usually not very difficult to choose a sex whip or flogger. However, those who have just started to explore BDSM play should remember that the choice of toy and technique makes a world of difference when it comes to the sensations you experience.
A flogger is a type of sex toy that is related to many forms of BDSM-style intercourse or play. Often also referred to as a whip, a spanker, or a flail, a flogger is a compact form of whip and can be very easily used to provide pain sensation play from a dominant to a submissive. With BDSM growing ever-popular in mainstream culture, we’re seeing more and more people waking up to the fun that a bit of controlled pain can provide in the bedroom. Plus, floggers make a very satisfying sound when you’re punishing your partner.
