🤔 What Exactly Are Bondage Restraints?
While 50 Shades of Grey got many, many things wrong when it comes to BDSM relationships, the series did get one thing right: consensually restraining a partner (or being restrained) with bondage restraints can create an intimate and powerful sexual experience. The person doing the restraining - referred to as the top in bondage lingo can do whatever the heck they please, while the bottom is in the vulnerable (and titillating) position of being at their mercy. There's an element of deep trust that comes with using bondage restraints and other kinky sex gear during sex.
A bondage restraint is a sex restraint that is used during sexual activities. These types of restraints are most common in bondage play and BDSM scenes. They are designed to keep a submissive from escaping or moving. They are often used during acts such as erotic humiliation, cock-and-ball torture, and discipline. Being restrained helps increase a submissive's feelings of helplessness and humiliation, and makes it appear as though a dominant is in complete control.
Safety should be the first concern when using bondage restraints and participating in bondage play. Safewords should always be decided on before any play begins and used whenever a restrained person begins to feel uncomfortable or frightened. Bondage restraints should also remain somewhat loose to prevent loss of circulation to extremities. Finally, a person should never be restrained in a position that could negatively impact their breathing. Be safe, play responsibly, and keep sex safe, sane, and consensual.
Before breaking out the restraints in the bedroom, you and your partner(s) should discuss your likes, dislikes, and hard limits, including setting a safe word that either person can use if they want the play to stop. You should also engage in sexual aftercare, where you check in with your partner emotionally and physically after the experience.
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💡 The Perks & Benefits of Engaging Into Kinky Bondage Restraints Sex
Although there are many people who view BDSM as taboo, society has seen a notable shift in attitude toward greater acceptance and understanding of BDSM play and incorporating bondage restraints in one's sex life. This is partly because of the mental health industry’s adjusted stance, and also because of BDSM’s increasing popularity in pop culture. Further, recent studies devoted to understanding BDSM and its effects on the body have shown surprising results. Not only are researchers failing to find evidence of harm BDSM may cause, but they are also discovering ways in which it might positively impact our mental and physical health or even deepen our relationships.
💦 Total redress of physical power & embracing each other's synergy
Bondage restraints alter the balance of power. A stronger partner can be rendered helpless, which in itself can be an unusual and charged experience. A naturally active individual is rendered passive or vice versa. This also opens up new horizons of tactile, emotional, sensual, and imaginative possibilities. If we were to select one reason for introducing bondage into an otherwise "vanilla" relationship, this would probably be it. Don’t underestimate how unique and powerful this experience can be the first time around.
💦 Submission & Deeping Trust with Your Partner(s)
Bondage and submission are naturally complementary. Being tied and helpless at the hands of the Top adds an edge to the play and is highly symbolic of submission. The sense of being made to feel exposed and available is particularly acute in positions such as open leg ties. Like most areas of BDSM play with bondage restraints, the exercise requires a sufficient level of trust. In fact, since you are allowing yourself to be rendered powerless to resist, more trust is required for most activities. One of the benefits of BDSM games is that they help develop deeper levels of trust with your partner.
The bondage itself can be used as a tool of control. The rope, particularly junctions or knots on the back and chest, can make great "handles" that allow a sub to be controlled in a very dominant manner. It can also be used as a lead. When a pole is used to tie wrists and ankles open leg style, it can be used to (carefully) flip a person from seated to a very vulnerable bottom in the air position. The effect of being tied in an unbalanced position, whilst still being supported securely from above by a safety rope, can be quite psychologically dramatic, especially if blindfolded.
💦 Role-playing, Fetishism, and Erotic Kinks
For many, the kick is in the fetishistic appeal of their chosen method of restraint. For example, body bags, straight-jackets, or chastity devices. It is also key to much role-play. After all, without some form of restraint many games, e.g. prisoner or kidnap scenarios, would be missing the major element and what fun would that be? Of course, appropriate bondage restraints can themselves be important in creating the fantasy.
💦 Freedom Through Bondage Practices
Many of us, especially women, are brought up with the idea of guilt in relation to sex or, at the very least, in relation to certain acts or behavior: The “nice girls don’t do that” mentality. Bondage play with bondage restraints can be used to expiate this guilt by providing the convenient excuse of being tied up and thus ‘unable’ to resist, a safe word notwithstanding. Thus, the social restraints are removed: Freedom through bondage!
❤️ Tips on Introducing Bondage Restraints to Your Sex Lives & Bedroom
More and more people are exploring the kinkier side of sex these days and with good reason. Indeed, humans are nothing if not psychological beings with physical, emotional, and sexual needs, who often seek healthy and satisfying outlets for their primordial desires. With full consent and an open mind, you and your partner could end up feeling the same way. Be safe and play responsibly!
However, don’t just reach for the rope, flogger, and chastity device because there are some basic things you should know beforehand. Here are some of the best tips on introducing bondage restraints into your sex lives & bedroom.
💦 Trust & Communication Are Key!
Bondage for beginners means starting slowly and trying it with someone you trust. Bedroom games may be a good place to start - they require and imply a surrender of control, by the restrained partner to the active partner. Establishing a safe word means everyone knows that there’s complete trust in the scenario, and you know that just saying one word will stop play immediately.
💦 New to Bondage Restraints? Keep It Short, Sweet, and Simple!
When it comes to bondage play and bondage restraints for beginners, we'd always advise incorporating the K.I.S.S principle - keep it short and simple but one can add sweet as well. Sure, a sex position like pegging may be the end goal, but you’ll need to warm up to it. Bringing your toolbox to the bedroom can be intimidating, to say the least, thus overcomplicating things and acting more like a distraction than the anticipated enhancement of pleasure. Blindfolds? They are trustworthy little helpers that provide slight sensory deprivation. Get some!
💦 Experiment with Bondage Restraints
When you’re ready to move into ‘official bondage territory’, restraint can be as simple as holding your partner's arms where you want them. If you’re on top, try pinning your partner's arms to the mattress. If they like that, you'd be ready to climb the ladder and introduce bondage restraints to your kink-infused play.
💦 Learn How to Control Your Orgasm
The longer you can last, the more fun you can have. We know it’s easier said than done, but there are potential ways to control your orgasm, including delay sprays, kegel exercises, and edging. EDGING!!!
🍑 A Word From The Dildo Hub Team on Bondage Restraints
You and your partner may be engaging in kink-fueled bondage play with bondage restraints for the first time. Perhaps you're advanced bondage veterans that have seen it all. Whatever the case may be, it's of utmost importance to know your boundaries and play responsibly within your own means - talk it out, see what both of you have tried, what you haven't, and why you liked a certain aspect of bondage play with bondage restraints. Bondage restraints can enhance the flavors of your sex life in the same way a lime wedge goes well with your cerveza. Whilst we would encourage everyone to be as open-minded as possible and try everything they'd want to experience, both parties must be prepared to hear that either of the partners may not be into the suggested kink. Mutual respect comes into all aspects of a relationship, including bondage play for playful enthusiasts and veterans of lust. Remember to be safe, play responsibly, and always have safe, sane, and consensual sex!
