How to Use a Strap-On Dildo: Your #1 Guide on Using Strap-On Dildos

by The Dildo Hub

Ah, we see you’ve reached the point where you are contemplating buying a strap-on dildo (or maybe you have already purchased one), and all we can say is - congratulations! You have definitely made the right choice. Strap-ons are unique because a) absolutely anyone can use them, and b) for any type of sex and pleasure they like! In addition, strap-ons are perfect if you have any orgasmic or erectile challenges. So, whether you are the wearer or receiver, we are sure you agree with us (wink, wink).

However, just because strap-ons are so universal and diverse, they must be carefully chosen and understood before being used. And that’s what we’re here for! So, this article will show you how to use a strap-on and what makes them so special! Hopefully, at the end of it, you will have the image of the perfect strap-on dildo for you and your partner. 

What Exactly is a Strap-On?

To start with - what exactly is a strap-on? It is a sex toy consisting of two parts, typically penis-shaped (a dildo), mostly non-vibrating that one can wear during sexual intercourse, attached by a harness or a vaginal plug. There are different types and sizes, as well as styles of wearing, on which we will elaborate below. You are also probably wondering what you can use it for, and the answer is adorable - everything!

Everything when it comes to sex, of course (please don’t use it for cooking lasagna or something, or if that’s what you like, sure). On that note, you can use it for anal, vaginal stimulation and penetration, oral sex, and even masturbation. But who can use it and with who? It can be used by any gender and sexual orientation, whether you naturally have a penis or not. And we love a gender-neutral sex toy, don’t we?

How Does a Strap-On Work?

A strap-on is a blessing because it can stimulate and penetrate the cervix and the g-spot for the lovely ladies and the prostate with the gentlemen! The harness of the strap-on allows you to wear the dildo around your hips or waist. It includes an O-ring enabling a dildo to fit in, and depending on the model - the harness will either have adjustable straps or allow you to wear it like underwear.

And while some harnesses will enable you to use them with all types of dildos and other attachments (such as butt plugs, prostate massagers, and anything else your heart desires), others are made only for specific sizes of dildos. So you should be very careful when buying one. Finally, for those who don’t have a penis but still want to feel that extra stimulation, you can get a strap-on with a bullet vibrator attachment that stimulates the clitoris while using the strap-on on your partner.

How to Put On a Strap-On?

To put your strap-on, start by removing the O-ring from the harness and sliding the dildo through it. Next, attach the O-ring to the harness and step into it as if you are putting pants on or your underwear. Then, adjust the straps (assuming there are any) so that the harness fits your hip bone. You must also adjust the thigh straps one by one until the dildo fits over your pubic area.

Bear in mind that it needs to be highly comfortable for you, and if you haven’t worn a strap-on or don’t naturally have a penis, it may feel weird at first, but with the suitable strap-on and adjustment, you will get used to it. After successfully putting it on and feeling comfortable with it, you need to lubricate the dildo, hold it with your hand until it penetrates your partner, and enjoy what follows! 

How to Use a Strap-On?

Before using a strap-on, you need to ensure that you and your partner, if you are using it with the same partner, are comfortable with it. And this applies to the one wearing the strap-on and the receiver. If you are only going to use it on one partner, you should let them choose the dildo - the color, size, and material - after all, their body, their rules. Before using the strap-on, you need to spend some alone time with it to get used to it. It is a whole new body part for you, so accepting it as such is vital before using it on someone else.

Just as you need time to ‘get acquainted’ with the strap-on, your partner will need that time, too. So wear it during foreplay and the making out as if it was your natural penis. Let them touch it, etc. Finally, lube! If you are using it for penetration, use lots of lube, so it doesn't hurt your partner. Don’t forget to communicate with each other, try different positions and clean your gear before and afterward! 

Types of Strap-Ons

There are a few different types of strap-ons:

  • Briefs: These strap-ons are designed for maximum comfort and are perfect for beginners since you can put them on like underwear and don’t require additional adjusting. 
  • Hollow: These strap-ons allow penis owners to insert their penises inside for lengthier sexual intercourse or if experiencing any erectile dysfunction. 
  • Double: These strap-ons include two dildos that penetrate the wearer and the receiver at the same time. 
  • Unisex: These harnesses come with adjustable straps and a crotchless design that allows you to feel comfortable with the dildo no matter what’s between your legs. 
  • Removable: These strap-ons allow you to remove the O ring from the harness and attach another sex toy to it.
  • Pegging: These strap-ons are used chiefly for anal penetration; that’s why they are best suited for thinner and more curved dildos that are more comfortable during anal play. 
  • Strapless: These strapless strap-ons have a vaginal plug and allow you to experience double penetration between two females or as a pegging device. 

Given the varieties offered, you should consider the end goal of the strap-on, who is the receiver, and what kind of pleasure you and they would like to experience. 

Who is Using Strap-Ons? (short answer - every f'n one!)

As mentioned above, everyone can use strap-ons. It can be used by every gender, with a partner, or for masturbation. If male, you can use it to make your sex life more enjoyable with your female partner (using it as a second member is also an option) or in case of erectile challenges (with the hollow strap-on). You can also use it with your male partner for prostate stimulation. If you are female, you can use it to destroy the gender stereotypes with your male partner by anally penetrating them; or use it to spice it up and please your female partner while pleasing yourself (with a double strap-on or a vibrating one). 

How to Take Care of Your Strap-On?

We’ve covered how to use a strap-on dildo and how strap-on dildos work; now, let’s cover how to take care of your strap-on! It is vital to sanitize and clean your strap-on between each use. It would be best if you followed the manufacturer’s instructions strictly. We recommend you use a condom with your strap-on each time to prevent infections or introduce bacteria to your or your partner’s body.

Also, because the condom is more easily lubricated, the experience would be more pleasurable for both sides. Some harnesses are machine-washable, while others require you to wash them by hand with water and soap.

Read more: How to clean sex toys

Tips for Using a Strap-On Sex Toy

You must keep a few things in mind before using a strap-on, especially if you are a beginner. First, choosing the right fit for you and your partner is vital. Never settle for anything you would find uncomfortable, and ensure your partner feels the same. Communication before, during, and after using the strap-on is essential, don’t disregard it.

Secondly, you might need to spend time and money choosing the suitable strap-on and getting comfortable. Also, don’t forget always to sanitize, clean, and lube! Condoms are perfect for all three and make your life easier; use them. When it comes to the positions, start by having your partner lay on their back - it will give you more control. Finally, be patient with yourself and your partner; don’t get discouraged if things do not work out immediately. After all, it isn't easy to accommodate and use a new body part for mutual pleasure. Start small.

Strap-On Recommendations

Now, let’s look at our recommendations! 

For beginners, we recommend our Ouch! Realistic 7-Inch Strap-On. The straps are elastic, and make sure the attached cock will stay in place. The realistic dildo can be unfastened from the harness. The material is soft inside, making it very comfortable to wear. It allows you to live out your naughtiest fantasies. You can use this product on its own or in combination with other sexual accessories. 

For those who want to indulge in something more advanced and memorable (like pegging), we recommend our 7X Revolver 2 Inch Thick Vibrating Strapless Strap-on. This strap-on is long and extra thick for those who crave a long shaft with a satisfying stretch. Equip your hips with the big package you deserve, without a pesky harness to get in your way!

The powerful bullet vibe easily slips into the cavity of this strap-on dong to give both the wearer and their partner three speeds and four patterns of intense vibration. Flip through each function with the onboard power button and find which pattern suits your play style! It is made with durable and flexible materials for every session's fulfilling yet forgiving experience. Compatible with water-based lube only! The vibrating bullet is powered via 3 LR44 tab batteries, included.


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