What is a boxer harness and how does it hold a dildo? A boxer harness is a strap-on harness built into a pair of shorts. Instead of straps and buckles, the fabric and waistband carry the load. An O-ring is sewn into the front. The shaft of a dildo with a wide, flared base is pushed through the ring from the inside, and the base sits against the body behind the fabric. The result is more comfortable than a strap harness and can be worn under clothes.
Incognito: a strap-on harness that looks like boxers
The Incognito from Strap U is a pair of black boxer-style shorts with a strap-on harness built in. The 1.6 inch O-ring is sewn inside the cotton and spandex fabric, hidden from view, so the front looks like any other pair of boxers. When you are ready, a strap-on dildo goes into place. Until then the shorts lie flat under pants or a dress.
A wide elastic waistband helps carry the weight of the dildo and keeps the shorts from sagging. The fabric is breathable and comfortable for long wear, and it does not bunch under clothing. This 3XL size fits waists from 39 to 46 inches around.
Best for: For strap-on wearers who want comfort and a low profile, and for anyone who dislikes the feel of straps and buckles. They can be worn out under clothing and used later. The dildo is not part of this item, so pair it with one that has a wide base.
At a glance: Hidden 1.6 in O-ring · Cotton and spandex · Fits 39 to 46 in waist · Machine washable
Key features
| Hidden O-ring |
The 1.6 inch ring is sewn inside the fabric, so the front looks plain. |
| Supportive waistband |
A wide elastic band helps hold the weight of the dildo. |
| Cotton and spandex |
Soft, breathable fabric for wearing under clothes. |
| Fits most strap-on dildos |
The universal ring takes most dildos made for harness use. |
| Machine washable |
Wash on a cold cycle, or by hand for longer life. |
Specifications
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Size: 3XL
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Fits waist: 39 in to 46 in circumference
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Waistband (unstretched): 20 in
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O-ring inner diameter: 1.6 in
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Materials: Cotton, spandex, rubber
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Color: Black
How to use
Try your dildo in the O-ring before the night you plan to use it. It needs a wide base so it stays behind the ring. Put the boxers on like any underwear and settle the waistband on your hips. They can be worn under clothes with nothing in them. When you are ready, feed the shaft of the dildo through the ring from the inside, so the base rests flat against your body. Check that it sits securely, then apply a lubricant that suits the dildo's material.
Care
- Machine wash on a cold cycle after each use.
- Hand wash and air dry to keep the fabric elastic for longer.
- Keep away from high heat and flame, which can melt the material.
- Do not tumble dry on hot or iron them.
- Wash the dildo separately according to its own material.
More on materials in our material safety guide.
Frequently asked questions
What size is this harness?
This listing is the 3XL. The waistband measures 20 inches unstretched and fits a waist of 39 to 46 inches around. Measure where you would wear the waistband of your underwear.
Which dildos fit the O-ring?
The ring has an inner diameter of 1.6 inches and is described as universal. Choose a dildo with a wide, flared base, so the base stays behind the ring. Test the fit before use.
Is a dildo included?
The distributor's text talks about adding a strap-on dildo of your choice and does not list one as included. Plan to buy the dildo separately, and pick one with a wide base that fits the ring.
Can the O-ring be seen through clothing?
The ring is sewn inside the fabric and hidden, and the material lies flat without bunching. With no dildo fitted, the shorts look like an ordinary pair of black boxers, so they can be worn out.
How do I wash it?
Machine wash on a cold cycle after each use. For the longest life, hand wash and air dry, because heat wears out the elastic. Keep the shorts away from high heat or flame.
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For adult use only. Read the instruction manual before first use. Specifications are the manufacturer's.
